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Cougar Dating in NZ, Kiwi Style

Kiwi cougars don't make a fuss. She knows what she wants, she says it plainly and she'd much rather spend her weekend with a younger man who's good company than wait around for someone her own age to notice her. My Cougar Dates is cougar dating in NZ for exactly those women, and for the younger men who've always fancied an older woman.

It's a small country, so the women here are rarely more than a short drive away. Every one of them has already said she prefers younger men. All that's left is saying kia ora.

What Kiwi Cougars Are Like

Practical, outdoorsy and good fun. She'll suggest a walk before she suggests a bar. She's probably done her OE and come home with stories she'll only tell you after the second glass. She's straight-up about what she's after, she can't stand a bloke who's all talk, and she's far more adventurous than her sensible rain jacket suggests. She's comfortable with silence, quick with a joke and very clear about what she enjoys, in and out of the bedroom. If you can make her laugh and keep up on a hill, you're halfway there.

North Island, South Island

Auckland.

Home to about a third of all Kiwis, so the odds are good. Cougars in Auckland love a waterfront drink, a weekend on Waiheke and anything involving a boat.

Wellington.

Windy, arty and proud of it. A Wellington cougar knows every good bar off Cuba Street and will tell you there's nowhere better on a good day. She's right.

Tauranga and the Mount.

Beach life all year. If she suggests walking up Mauao at sunrise, she's testing your fitness. Pass.

Christchurch and the South Island.

Down-to-earth, quietly adventurous and very fond of a weekend away. Ski season in Queenstown is when plenty of South Island cougars come out to play.

Picture this

A Day on Waiheke

She met you at the ferry terminal with two coffees and a plan. Forty minutes across the gulf, and Auckland is suddenly a long way behind you. She's 47, sunglasses on, linen shirt, and she's booked lunch at a vineyard with a view right down to the water.

Lunch turns into a bottle, the bottle turns into a swim at Onetangi, and the swim turns into her asking whether you really need to catch the last ferry back. There's a bach just up the hill, she says. It belongs to a friend, and the friend is away.

The Kiwi Cougar Year

Summer, December to February.

The pōhutukawa flowers red around Christmas, everyone heads to the bach and the evenings go on forever. Peak dating season.

Autumn, March to May.

Settled weather, quieter beaches and long lunches in wine country.

Winter, June to August.

Matariki brings a long weekend in late June or early July, the ski fields open in the South Island and fires get lit everywhere else.

Spring, September to November.

Lambs in the paddocks, the first warm weekends and plenty of women deciding they're done with hibernating.

A Bit of Kiwi for Your First Date

If she says she's keen, she's interested. If she says "sweet as", you've done well. If she tells you the beach is heaps nicer at the other end, follow her. If she says "chur" when you hold the door, that's a thank you. And if she tells you to bring your togs and jandals, it's going to be a good day, and very possibly a good night.

What She Wants From a Younger Kiwi Bloke

Someone who turns up.

On time, in a clean shirt, with a plan.

Someone who can laugh at himself.

Kiwis can't stand anyone who takes himself too seriously.

Someone with energy.

For the walk, the swim and whatever comes after.

Someone who keeps it quiet.

Her business is her business.

Cougar Dating Sites in NZ, Sorted

When you're comparing cougar dating sites in NZ, only one question really matters: does everyone on it want the same thing? Here they do. The women like younger men, the men like older women and nobody has to explain themselves. It's private, it works wherever you are, and you'll see Kiwi cougars near you, from Whangārei to Invercargill.

How to Date a Kiwi Cougar

Be on time, be yourself and don't oversell it: Kiwis can spot a show-off a mile away. Make a real plan. Ask about her life and listen to the answers. And keep things discreet, because in New Zealand everyone knows everyone, and her best friend's cousin probably knows your flatmate.

Looking for someone in particular? Read about older Kiwi women who like younger men, or about sugar mummies in NZ who do the choosing.

Kiwi cougars are online now, and they'd like to hear from a younger bloke. Get your profile sorted and say kia ora.
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